“My personal feeling is that if you are able to survive the climb of life on whatever mountain it is you’ve set out to master, and if in the bit between the base and the peak you learn something from both the good and the bad alike, and if you live to tell about it with gratitude, you’ve succeeded.” -Shania-
If you would have peeked through my front window on any given day during the second half of the 90’s, you would have caught Shania Twain and I doing a duet! As she brilliantly belted out, “…when I cook dinner and I burn it black he’d better say, ‘mmm, I like it like that!'” over my stereo system, I dusted, vacuumed, folded laundry, and anything else that allowed unhindered freedom to be a rock star! I have the sweetest memories of family road trips that included, “Whose Bed Have Your Boots Been Under” and “Man, I feel Like A Woman”. (Yet another opportunity to judge my parenting!)
One of the sweetest by-products of having a traveling/adventurous family, is that we love to give adventures as gifts!! This year my son, Cody, gifted me with tickets to see Shania in person!! I was thrilled to death at the opportunity to relive some of these most precious moments watching her live! The concert was beyond my expectation. The light show was, quite honestly, second to none, and Shania was delightfully perfect! We experienced the added bonus of having a power outage, in the Staples Center, in the middle of, “That Don’t Impress Me Much” (Not gonna lie, it was impressive!). Because the tour is Shania’s first tour in eleven years and serves as her farewell tour, it was especially sweet!
First tour in ELEVEN years? What? Why? Little did I know that Shania has navigated a tragic and painful path in order arrive at this moment! For me, life has been busy over the last 15 years, and I’m not usually one to keep up with the lives of the rich and famous. I honestly had no idea of her journey or of the roadblocks, obstacles, and heartaches she has endured. This woman is the singing, dancing, joke-cracking, high-kicking embodiment of, “Feet Up and Go”!
Her story includes grinding poverty of her rural childhood; her devastating loss, at 22, of both parents in a car crash; the profound illness that threatened to silence her singing voice; and the betrayal that broke her heart — when her husband/manager ran off with her best friend.
I’d like to share a bit of her story in her own words as told to “Nightline” anchor, Cynthia McFadden…
Twain’s breakout album, “Come On Over,” released in 1997, was a joint project with music producer Robert “Mutt” Lange, 62. The couple produced many songs together in the years to come and eventually fell in love and married. For Twain, it was practically love at first sight.
“When I started to get lonely, then I knew that something wasn’t right,” she said. “I’m married to someone I love, and I’m so lonely…I didn’t want to live that way.”
Twain said she began confiding heavily in her close friend, Marie-Anne Thiebaud. They were friends for years until Twain confronted Thiebaud and Lange about having an affair, which she said would ultimately end Twain and Lange’s 14-year marriage. She divorced Lange in 2009. (Both Lange and Thiebaud have publicly denied the affair ever happened.)
“I was angry at Mutt for not listening to me and not answering my questions, more than the affair itself,” she said.
Since learning of Lange’s alleged betrayal, the five-time Grammy winner said she has developed dysphonia, a physical and physiological ailment that wouldn’t allow her to sing properly.
“The muscles literally constrict the voice box and prevent air from flowing properly,” Twain said. “You don’t get any volume, which is not very good for a singer. It’s got nothing to do with the vocal chords, the voice was perfectly fine,” she continued. “I would say the envelope around the vocal chords was restricting, and not allowing the vocal chords to do their job. It’s hard to explain, when you have an impairment in the voice-box area, it affects you psychologically — you get gun-shy: ‘Can I go for that note, that sound?’ It’s a vicious cycle.”
Talking about it now has become a large part of her road to recovery. Forcing herself to do things that are difficult, taking herself out of her comfort zone, facing her anxieties, and just getting more comfortable with her fears have provided the healing that she never thought possible.
There is obviously much more to this story, but, the bottom line is that Shania has chosen to pick her feet up and go even though retreating into a world of hurt and self pity could very well have claimed her future! I honestly have no clue about Shania’s (private) spiritual convictions, but I am convinced that the God who created her, loves her and has sustained her in her darkest hours. I know this because He alone has proven faithful time and time again in my own life and in the lives of so many broken hearts that I’ve loved and prayed with.
When circumstances threaten to overwhelm us, constricting our “voice”, He continually reassures us with His tender words…